You really don’t.
Every time I hear people complain about “trying for another” I just think OMG you already have one, why are you complaining? What does it matter? You already have one… You’re lucky! Be happy with your one awesome child!
I really don’t get why secondary infertility is such a big deal.
I should be so lucky!
I’m not trying to upset anyone here. I’m sure it is painful and saddening in its own way and I’m sorry if you’re going through it. But… You’ve already borne one child. You already have a baby! If you have another one then that’s like hitting the jackpot – you’ve already won the lottery once!
It reminds me of the super-insensitive friend I had who told me that she “knew” exactly what infertility felt like… with her two children!!! (She tried for less than a year. I’ve not had a sniff of anything for about 15!)
Maybe I need to get educated or something and maybe I just don’t understand how awful it is. But what I wouldn’t give to be one of those *mothers* complaining about secondary infertility.
I’ve got primary infertility (if there is such a thing). I’ve never had a pregnancy. I’ve never had a baby. I don’t know if I ever will. And I would be perfectly happy to be one of those mothers wishing for another baby.
I’d be perfectly happy with one.