A kick in the teeth

Sometimes I wonder how many times we can get kicked in the teeth and get back up again. I’ve avoided writing too much about my past relationship on here, mainly because I try not to think about it too much. It is a sad thing that is in the past, but what is really getting…

After a lot of waiting, possible progress…

I’ve sort of not had much news on our IVF journey since the miscarriage in July.  In summary: We had our first round of IVF on the NHS resulting in a positive pregnancy test! Unfortunately this ended in miscarriage in July. During the miscarriage they found that I had a fibroid, pretty much smack bang…

Wanting what you can’t have

Or: We all have our things. We’ve all been there. Some of us more than others. And it strikes me yet again today that we have more in common with each other than we think. Yesterday I did my usual logon to Amazon to send a new baby gift package to friends. This is something…

The white picket fence

Or: Can we grab our own slice of the American Dream? Those of you who are my regular readers will know that we are the biggest Americophiles known to (wo)man. I mean, we are spending our long holiday in the United States next month and we spent our two weeks winter holiday in NYC last…

The last cake

This is a story about a girl and a cake. And a question: If you could never eat cake again, what would your last cake be? Rewind: Last week I was asked to bake a last cake for E, a friend of mine who is going in for gastric sleeve surgery. Gastric sleeve surgery is…

Sometimes you just need your mum

I’ve written a bunch about my mad, bad family and I hope if I’ve got anything across it’s the idea that they are not exactly “normal” but I’m really rather fond of them. For example, I don’t believe in the Grateful Adoptee trope (for who are we apart from… y’know, individual humans?) but I do…

A late night thought

2am: Sometimes it feels as though everyone in the world is pregnant.  Or has just popped a sprog.  Today: Another birth announcement. (Our friends who I refused to see whilst pregnant as I was having a miscarriage. I guess they were further along than we thought.) Yesterday: An ex colleague on Facebook. He’s about 10…

If life gives you lemons… Get some chocolate and make brownies

Sometimes, bad things happen to good people. And sometimes, life gives you lemons. Now, I figure I’ll leave the lemonade to the pros, because for me, it’s all about chocolate.  I have found over time that there’s one recipe that’s guaranteed to cheer people up.  It cheers me up to make something for others, and…

How it feels to be Other

I had an experience yesterday, and I wanted to talk it through a bit, as it is illustrative of how it feels to be a female / transracial* in the society where I live. (*I use this word to denote US: “of colour” or UK: “ethnic minority”) – and how this feels as a result…

Things I’ve been thinking about: Adoption

Or: Adoption isn’t black and white (except when it is)   So it seems like I’ve gone a while without posting again! It’s not for not being active, it’s more that I’ve become more active outside of the blogging world. For one thing, I was introduced to a new forum for transracial adoptees by one…