IVF 2: It’s all go (Week 8)

I don’t know why it’s taken me so long to do an update – I think it’s because so much has happened in the past week. And it just seems like a lot of updating, but I think it’s safe to say that a lot has happened this week! Have a seat, get yourself a G&T (or a virgin mocktail) and settle in for the long haul…

The end of an era

First things first, last Friday was my last day at work. I wrote in my last post how I did two days worth of cake baking, and Friday – my last day in the office – I was anticipating having a load of time to update my blog, pack up my stuff, etc. Did not happen! I got into work, with a load of the cakes, and I was immediately besieged by people wanting to say goodbye. It went on The. Entire. Day. I’m not kidding! I said to T it was sort of like being at your own funeral… I mean, it was actually really nice how many people took the time to come round and have a chat (and eat some cake!). I suppose it was slightly different to what most people do, because it’s usually a big boozy night out, which I obviously wasn’t doing. So I’d mailed out 120 (!) carefully chosen people (because I’m so not someone who sends out something to entire mailing lists saying “Delete if you don’t know me”) and invited them to pop round for cake. It was awesome!

Here are some of the cakes plus the day 2 (final day) display in the office…



I mean, it was a lot of cake. It was also super touching that people actually took the time to come round and say goodbye, including some people I didn’t really expect to come by. It was half term so a lot of people weren’t in the office. Also one of the partners got me a present! Personally! Which I just felt super honoured to receive (I’m still someone who finds it exciting when partners are nice to me, ha) and she (one of the few female partners) also got me the most awesome card. I totally loved it. She also got me chocolates from Hotel Chocolat (posh chocolate shop) and cake themed tea towels from anthropologie! I was so chuffed!

The card… I love this card so much. It sums me up… I’m never going to be a zebra…


Another thing that was lovely was most of the people who came round to say bye weren’t actually part of my team. (I did have my favourite partner from my team come round and chat for ages, which was great.) It was nice because I felt like I had gotten to know people who weren’t in my direct team. For all that the company treated me not in the best way, I still felt that at least I had a positive impact on some people. One of the ones who came round was a girl who worked for me on a project last year. She’s one of the most beautiful people I’ve ever met – super attractive, probably 15 years younger than me, and super smart… I should hate her but she’s lovely. And she came round and said, “Thank you so much for encouraging me and being so supportive” and I was thinking, wow, she’s going to surpass me in a matter of years! I’ll be asking her for a job in the future, I’m sure! Still, it was nice that she said such nice things!

One of my best friends at work took me out for a posh lunch to Vanilla Black. It’s one of the poshest veggie restaurants in London. I’m not vegetarian but I always sort of flirt with the idea… I love going to somewhere I don’t have to worry about ordering things I won’t like. (I’m very fussy about meat. Honestly I should give it up, but I like it too much. But if I thought about it I wouldn’t eat it.) Anyway we had a lovely catch up because she’s pretty senior so really busy all the time! She said she was really sad I was leaving but I refuse to feel sad because I know we’ll stay in touch.


And finally, I got this amazing bouquet from the girls I sit near – which is so nice because I am not even in their team, but one of them managed to organise this absolutely humungous and stunning bunch of flowers, which incorporates my favourite flowers. I love flowers!


 

The 20 year reunion

So straight after leaving work, I went to meet up with my friends from school for our girls’ weekend. Turns out I was delayed at the office so my poor friend had to sit in the pub waiting for me to arrive. I couldn’t tell people to leave when they’d come to say goodbye! But eventually I managed to escape. I tried to feel grateful for the flowers and gifts but truth be told, I was somewhat weighted down by all the baggage! Especially as I wasn’t going home until Sunday! So funny! Fortunately my friend was totally okay with it and saw the funny side. And then our other friend turned up. So three out of four were there, and we had a few hours to kill before meeting the fourth at the train station. We had all come from different places – I was the local one who lives in London and the others live hours away, so that goes some way to explaining why we hadn’t been all four of us together since we left school! 

One of the first things I did was explain that I wasn’t drinking… because… I’m pregnant! Friend 1 knows about the miscarriage last year and has had two herself. She was really happy for me. Friend 2 has a child and has recently split up with her husband. She was also happy for me. I tried not to make a big deal out of it because I knew Friend 1 would maybe feel bad about it, but actually she was super nice about it. We had a great time chatting and drinking (me: orange and lemonade – so strange as I’m usually the first to have a nice glass of wine) and we looked up and suddenly realised Friend 3 would be arriving at the station in a few minutes and we weren’t anywhere near! (I guess this makes me Friend 4!)

Now, before we met up, Friend 3 had been messaging our Whatsapp group. A lot. Some of it was self-deprecating stuff about being fat. We explained nobody cares, we’re all girls, we’re old friends, we don’t give a s*** how fat you are. Also she just kept messaging small things. A lot. Anyway long story short but OMG it turns out she is completely neurotic. I have seen her in the intervening years but not at length – and we had a full weekend to spend together. It feels uncharitable to talk about her in this way so I won’t labour the point… Just that, wow, girl has problems. She just acted completely anxious and highly strung the entire weekend (for example: refused to drink in a really attention seeking way all the time, because she apparently doesn’t drink until she gets her period, just in case she’s pregnant, even though she admitted it was really unlikely and she’d already done a pregnancy test that was negative… Went on and on about being fat but literally took any opportunity to stuff food down her neck, but also had some specific dietary requirements which again seemed really attention seeking… Spoke in a baby voice the whole time and acted helpless, like she couldn’t negotiate public transport etc…) It was just infuriating. I think the entire other three of us were done with her by the end of the weekend. I felt kind of bad for her in retrospect but she was really hard to be around. (I haven’t mentioned most of her strange behaviour. It was odd.)

Aside from that though, we had a great time. Tbh it’s not that I didn’t want to see Friend 3, but it was just sort of a shock. Particularly as we had all gone into the weekend thinking Friend 2 would be the one needing support, because of having just split up with her husband and the father of her child, but she was completely fine and seemed to be coping well, whereas Friend 3 just seemed to be having difficulty with life. But I think some people are just drama queens. We still had a fantastic time – we went for afternoon tea (obviously – I planned this weekend) and to a show, and to brunch, and it was also really nice to see Friend 2’s parents again, as that’s where we stayed for the weekend. (I live in London but have a 1 bedroom studio apartment so couldn’t easily fit in guests. They live in a 4 or 5 bedroom mansion in the posh bit of London!)

Afternoon tea

I got everyone presents! I love getting presents. We all had the same handbag in different colours. I was glad I got the rose gold one! I was going to assign colours but then did it randomly (I’d wrapped them all up) and it was cool how everyone got a colour they liked and pretty much how I would have assigned them. Serendipity! I also got us all matching rings from Pandora. Slightly less extravagant than it seemed as they were in the sale, but still serendipitous! They loved them. I just really enjoy being at the stage of life where I can afford to treat people once in a while. It felt sort of sisterhood-y!

On the Sunday we went out for brunch which is one of my favourite things to do. I had pancakes, and a side of crispy bacon… Oh yeah. Lovely.


So all in all we had a great weekend! Lots of sitting around and lying in bed chatting, so it was like being back at school. But in a good way, as I hated school! I guess it was funny about Friend 3 because she was so confident at school… She was the really popular one. I guess it’s sad in a way to see someone who has turned into a neurotic wreck. We all did get a bit impatient with her, but I think we were nice to her, and as the days go by I feel more sympathetic to her (when I’m not directly exposed to her!). It’s funny how life turns out. Friend 2 and I were reflecting on the fact that we were the losers at school and we are probably the most sorted in terms of being able to deal with life! (Well, we’ll both be divorced eventually so I’m not sure if that’s a good thing – maybe it says something about how having a hard time at school gives you resilience to get through tough things in life.) One of the things I enjoyed was showing off London to them – even though I’m not a native Londoner, I am the one who lives here so planned most of the activities and it was sort of fun to show it off to them. I feel like it’s definitely my adopted hometown and I intend to live here until America finally lets me emigrate, so it’s good to feel a bit like a local!

 

Week 8 scan

I had a few days off work before starting my new job, and the day before my first day was my 8 week checkup with Dr S (the private doctor I’m paying to see who specialises in reproductive immunology – I am following a borderline protocol as tests show I had an elevated natural killer cells reaction to pregnancy).

I was worried, even though we had been discharged by the clinic to the NHS. T couldn’t make it because Dr S is outside of London and it was a weekday… So although T was completely positive, I was worried. My only other experience of this is around this time last year where we were told that the baby wasn’t growing and I was going to have a miscarriage. I did feel slightly better following our 7 week scan, but I was still really apprehensive. I was due to have an intralipids infusion as well, as I need to have one every 4 weeks assuming the pregnancy still goes ahead. I think we have them until 16 weeks.

Dr S’s office is very posh and my sister and I joked about the strawberry water… She had her results the same week with Dr S and is reasonably sure she’ll be going ahead with treatment with him. We both love the strawberry water in the waiting room! (TryTryAgain will be familiar with this! And Dr S helped her become a mama so I reckon strawberry water is good!)


So I popped into the examining room, and had the scan.

Dr S had to dig around for a bit… I was beginning to feel a bit bad… But our baby was there!

Measuring exactly 8 weeks – exactly to the day!

I also heard his heartbeat which was 167. (Well, I couldn’t really hear it but he kept playing it and showed it on screen so I did hear something in between all the noise.) Apparently that’s good! Dr S said anything between 100 and 200 was good. He said I should be happy because he’s developing exactly as he should be.

Next appointment is in 2 weeks and I managed to get a weekend one, so T will be able to come and see the scan. The midwife said it should be a lot clearer by then. (Baby still looks like a blob. But I did see the heartbeat. And the important thing is, he’s grown!)

I was so relieved!

Breathe… Out…

I am beginning to feel better about the pregnancy. I’ve spent a lot of it in a state of anxiety and trying not to get my hopes up, but lately I have been thinking more and more that it might actually work. I feel like: If we can get to 12 weeks, I will feel a helluva lot better. 

T is so happy about it. He just assumes it will happen. I keep saying “if”, but I’m allowing myself to feel a bit more optimism. The midwife who gave me the intralipids was really nice, and said it is completely different this time. I just have to try and get through the next few weeks and hope we can make it into the second trimester (and beyond).


My vein worked this time! Yay. It was quite easy, which is a good thing because the last time I had the intralipids it took ages and was really slow to go in. Phew, as I have to have two more of these if all goes according to plan.

I kind of can’t believe I’m still pregnant. It doesn’t feel real, although of course I have the symptoms of humungaboobs and weight gain. I also feel sick when I’m hungry. I asked the midwife about it and she said, you realise that the steroids will be masking many of the symptoms (like sickness)… That actually made me feel better about not having morning sickness or whatever. And it makes sense as I haven’t had hayfever either. Bonus! I do feel very uncomfortable in my own body right now (massive weight gain; my face doesn’t feel like mine with the steroids as it’s swollen up). I just have to tell myself it will be worth it in the end. I’m sort of becoming used to this new reality of being pregnant, but I’m also aware of how fragile it is; how easy it is for it to be snatched away. I’m trying to take each day as it comes. Two weeks until the 10 week scan…

 

New job!

I started my new job the next day. Crazy. I’m glad I didn’t have to go in on bad news. All change! Well, I had a great first day. It took me a bit longer to get there than expected, but I managed to make it just in time. (Phew.) Then I got a call from my boss. Turns out he’d been called away and couldn’t meet me, so told me just to do all the induction stuff. Usually on first days you have loads of stuff to go through, picking up your laptop and whatnot, so I just got on with that. I also met a load of new people and they were really nice.

Also, as an aside, I felt encouraged when I walked into the office and there were loads of non-white people, loads of women… Just such a more diverse place than I was at previously. It makes a huge difference to how I feel. I explained to one of the guys that I was always the only female, the only ethnic… He had worked there for 12 years and he found that really surprising because he said he always felt the numbers of women and men were the same. At any rate, it was a nice thing to see people of my ethnicity in the workplace.

The other thing is that it just seems a positive place so far! For one thing, they have a lot of smiley people. For another thing… free drinks fridges! (T was overjoyed when I told him they had an entire shelf of ginger beer!) Free nespresso. Free cereal. Free fruit! They really want you to have your five a day! I don’t know, it tickled me. It made me feel like it’s a small thing they can do that cheers up the workers. Anyway, I’m very hopeful about the place.

The second thing is my boss said he wasn’t around on Friday so to take the day off, because I won’t have anything to do! Seriously! He said just to enjoy the weather, because, I quote, “There’s plenty of time to work your ass off – why not kick off your heels and enjoy the weather?” I kid you not! So funny. Also, I picked up all my tech (new nice laptop and phone) and it all worked! That never happens!

I think this may be the best job I ever had!


 

 

And finally… New house!

I don’t know if this is just the way things work out, but after about 5 months of waiting and getting frustrated about nothing happening with the house (well, small flat) – we exchanged today!

This means we expect to complete in a couple of weeks! Crazy!

 

So… It’s all go in the Nara/T/Dog household. Dog is absolutely adorable, and I’m quite partial to T too.

 

Next steps:

10 week checkup with Dr S on Saturday 24 June. We’re also having the harmony and nuchal scans so I’ll have bloods taken then, and a dose of intralipids. I’m still on all the steroids and supplements. I think we start weaning off them at 12 weeks, if we make it that far.

For today: I’m pregnant! I have a new job! (There’s a separate post somewhere down the line if we make it that far about how I’m not entitled to maternity leave… But we’ll cross that bridge if/when we come to it.) Life is okay for now.

Coming soon: New house! 

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56 comments

  1. sewingbutterfly

    This is just the best news all round!! I also hated school and always felt like a bit of a loser, but I have a cool job, a great hubby and a bub on the way. So excited for you. I am 16 weeks and it still feels like a dream. Even though, just this morning, I heard our precious baby’s heartbeat on our doppler. Best sound in the world! My next hurdle is the 20 week morphology scan. I am taking it 1 hurdle at a time and probably won’t relax until they are squirming in my arms!

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    • Nara

      Thank you! Congratulations for being 16 weeks! That’s brilliant you can hear baby on the Doppler! I’m definitely getting one if we make it that far. Wishing you lots of luck with the scan! Xx

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  2. My Perfect Breakdown

    I am so excited to see your post that I’m commenting on my phone. So I’m apologizing in advance for all the typos!
    Yay for still being pregnant and celebrating with no alcohol and lots of amazing cake!!! I am so excited to hear that baby is growing right on target and has such a healthy heart rate!! This is the most exciting news of all.
    I’m so thrilled that you last day at your old job went so well. And I’m equally thrilled that your new job started off so well!! I love hearing that it’s diverse and seems so happy!!
    And i am so happy your house is going through! I’m so excited for you, T and dog! 😊

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  3. EmilyMaine

    Woooohooo! It’s all happening at once. Those cakes are amazing. You are so talented. I am so pleased baby is all snug and right on track in there. That is marvellous! Love the sound of the new work environment too. It really is all coming up Nara! Wooo!

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    • Nara

      Thanks Emily! My cakes were kind of messy close up but hey, we had a good time! Hoping that the good stuff keeps coming.

      Hope everything is going great with your bigger family! Xx

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  4. TryTryAgain

    What a week! What a post! Brilliant news all round!!! πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

    I’m so so happy for you, it’s amazing how things all seem to happen at once sometimes. I’m definitely with you on the strawberry water! I had most of my scans over Christmas time and there was a great selection of mince pies, fancy waters etc available then! It’s fantastic news that your sister is seeing Dr S too, so hopeful that he can help her too. Hope the new job continues to go well and looking forward to more positive updates xxx

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    • Nara

      Thank you!! Yes we did find the strawberry water funny. It’s nice! And I’ve been there at the weekend with the pastries! T will be pleased if that happens in two weeks!

      I really hope Dr S can help my sis too. It’s so expensive. Nuts! But hopefully it works and will be worth it. Got to spend the new job dosh on something!

      Hope all is going great with your little one! Xx

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  5. Courtney

    What a fantastic post to start my weekend with (because it’s all about me, you know. HA!)! I am just so happy for you! Baby on the way, GREAT job, new flat, a happy reunion! I am totally stealing your matching handbag idea for my sisters – I love that people randomly picked the colors by picking a wrapped gift. LOVE IT!

    ENJOY YOUR WEEKEND!!!!

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    • Nara

      Thanks so much! Yes it’s all going at once! And yes it’s all about you! πŸ˜‚ Definitely steal the handbag idea. We all went out with matching handbags- was so funny. They were different colours though so probably no-one noticed!

      I enjoyed seeing your weekend stuff on FB! Can’t believe you ALL did races! You guys are like the bionic family! Xx

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  6. silentmiscarriageloudthoughts

    Those cakes look incredible. I’m drooling. I want nothing more right now than to fly to the other side of the world just so I can check your office for leftovers.
    Great scan update! I look forward to hearing about the next one, should be looking even more like a baby.
    Annoying about the maternity leave?! I think we only have to have been in a job 6 months to qualify here.

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    • Nara

      Haha. Well if you’re ever in London let me know and we can have cake!

      Yeah I am hoping that the 10 week scan comes quickly. Apparently that’s when it starts looking a bit like a baby!

      Mat leave… I’m entitled to maternity leave but only statutory which isn’t really worth it (it’s practically unpaid). In the UK most of the time you get paid maternity leave and I’d have got a year off at my last job! So bad timing! But worth it to leave my last job! We will just have to work out how the new job feels about it. We can probably afford for me to take some time off unpaid but also they might feel a bit ambushed that I started the job pregnant. In most cases there’s a qualifying period to get paid mat leave and I don’t qualify as you have to have worked there a certain length of time. It’s a good problem to have though, given I never thought I would actually get pregnant!

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  7. Babyscienceproject

    Wow – lots going on in Naraland! All happy things. Glad the new job is good, your boss sounds like my kind of guy. And most importantly, baby is growing and fine. Your friend also sounds like a bit of a baby but I guess that’s another story 😎

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    • Nara

      Ha, yeah. I guess everyone has their issues. I’m bad at dealing with people like that and I need to get more patient! On the plus side it’s all go for me… Just need that to continue! And definitely on the new boss front. He’s already invited me on a sailing trip! I’m wondering what actual work I need to do!!

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  8. Maternally Optimistic

    So much to catch up on!! Everything really is coming together for you.
    I have to say your cakes are amazing!!! So glad you had a lovely last day and your first few days in your new job have been so good.
    Your friend sounds like a bit of a pain but at least you still had a lovely weekend away.
    So happy that baby is growing away nicely, it’s so exciting! Xxx

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    • Nara

      Thanks so much! The cakes didn’t exactly turn out how I wanted but they were okay! It was a really nice last day. And nice first days in new job… Especially considering one was holiday! Ha!

      Yeah my friend was a pain but the more I think about it (with distance!) the more I feel sorry for her. I’m not so good at dealing with people like that and need to get more patient!

      Thank you so much for the well wishes! X

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  9. Wannabe Mama UK

    I’m pleased to hear things are working out well so far!
    Try to wnjoy being pregnant and settling in to the new job despite your fears and the side effects of the steriod (easier said than done, I’m sure), and worry about maternity pay later – you are entitled to leave kalthoguh Imknow being able to afford to take it is an issue), maybe T will be able to take Shared Parental Leave. It’s “non – traditional” and I know a lot of women would rather take the time than have their partner take it, but it might be an option.
    Anyhoo… that’s a little way off for now so in the mean time try to relax! 😊

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    • Nara

      Thanks! Yes I can take leave but I’m only entitled to statutory which is next to nothing. We can afford to take some unpaid but it’s not ideal. Still, better to have this problem than not have it! I probably just have to figure out how they feel about the pregnancy and then try and work with what they want. I don’t want them to feel like I have ambushed them. Obviously it’s never happened before now and it still might go wrong so we shall see. I am definitely up for T doing some SPL but we will have to see if we qualify.

      Definitely going to try and focus on settling in to the new job and hopefully becoming indispensable!

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      • Wannabe Mama UK

        52 weeks off is the satututory amount of leave and you and T have the right to split it however you want after the first 2 weeks. But you’re right, Statutory Maternity Pay is crap and Maternity Allowance (if you don’t qualify for SMP) is worse.

        But… I’m putting positive vibes out into the world that everything is gonna go well with this job, and that you will get some enhanced pay from work πŸ˜€

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      • Nara

        I’m definitely not eligible for enhanced due to just starting the job at 8 weeks pregnant. So what I’d get paid is next to nothing! At least the job pays me quite a lot more than before so I would need to save up a bit. It’s more about how much leave they would accept me taking. I really want this job and it’s a great opportunity and I don’t want them to start sidelining me or whatever – in theory they could get rid of me if they don’t like it. I don’t want to be unemployed! But need to get baby to 6 months at least. We will cross that bridge when we come to it!

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  10. ourgreatestdesire

    So much happening in your world and all of it sounds great…well, except for having to deal with a neurotic friend, but other than that. πŸ™‚ I am so happy for you and I hope things keeping progressing well in all areas!!!

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    • Nara

      Thanks so much! Yeah I hope that my friend manages to feel better. We are all trying to support her. Thank you for being happy for me! It’s great to know I have friends rooting for me! X

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  11. stealingnectar

    This is such a nice post! I loved hearing about your friends, your last day of work, your first day of work, your healthy baby…all such positive things! People must have really loved and appreciated you at work – I feel like you got a royal exit! That is so sweet! I am so excited about all of these positive things in your life! And those cakes. Ahhhh! Divine!!! Someday, I have to come to London just so I can sit with you and eat cake!!!

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    • Nara

      You definitely have to come to London with baby! We will do afternoon tea and a proper tourist trip! That would be fantastic!

      Right now I’m just trying to stay positive and hope that it will continue. It feels a bit surreal and everything is happening at once. Long may it continue!

      And not long for you now! How exciting! Xxx

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  12. angelarhadley

    Umm you made those cakes?!? They are so beautiful! So are all of your photos in general, you must be very talented! Congrats on all the exciting things you have going on! I will keep you in my prayers that things keep going on that path! πŸ™‚

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    • Nara

      Ah thank you! Yes I like making cakes although that time I probably bit off more than I could chew! Thank you for your prayers and well wishes. I hope everything is well with you! Xx

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  13. spiteorflight

    167 is a really strong heartbeat, that’s excellent news. And just wait for your next scan — that little blob will all of a sudden look like a little person! Also, if you do ever move to America, I will need to commission some of those lovely cakes!

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    • Nara

      Thanks, cakes definitely on the cards if I ever make it to the US! Haha. I am really hopeful for the next scan and something that looks more like a baby! X

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  14. valleyally

    The stars are aligning for you…it melts my heart to read all this. Enjoy the days of a new job and bask in the joy of being pregnant. So many of us are routing for you Nara. All the best! Xx

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    • Nara

      Thank you so much! That’s so sweet of you to say. Not sure if I could say the joy of being pregnant when I feel like a big blob, but I’m happy it’s continuing and hoping it carries on… Though slightly concerned I’ll look like Jabba the Hutt by the end of it! πŸ˜‚ xx

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  15. RJ

    So many exciting changes! First of all, congrats on the good scan! I’m so glad things are still looking good! Also excited you are liking your new job. Diversity at work is so important and it’s great that this company does this better. Good luck with the house stuff!!!

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    • Nara

      Thank you! It seems surreal that it’s still happening. I keep waiting for it to stop. I hope it doesn’t. The job seems good so far but difficult to judge on two days, especially as one was a day off! πŸ˜‚ But I’ll take it! X

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  16. ashleykyleanderson

    I love these updates! We’re in Florida but I’ve been thinking about you guys & baby and I’m glad you got to hear the heartbeat and see your little growing blob. He or she is already moving their arms by now! How amazing is that?! T sounds like Kyle with his optimism. It took me longer as well, but that is okay. I wish now that I could go back and enjoy the pregnancy part more, but I know that I was incapable of really doing so at that time. We just have to get through it sometimes.

    Loved hearing about all the good things going on in your life!

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    • Nara

      Oh wow, such terrible events in Florida now (I know it’s a big place – I hope you are far far away). Such a sad day from somewhere that I associate with happiness.

      I think it will take longer for me to feel okay about the pregnancy, and definitely to enjoy it without worrying it’s going to end. I mean I know how common it is for everything not to go okay, but I’m just hoping this time it will be. I guess I only have 2 weeks to wait for the next scan, and then 2 weeks after that for the first trimester… So not that long (although it feels like ages). Maybe if I can make it halfway through I’ll feel more like I’m actually pregnant!

      Love that you are still rooting for us! Even though you have lots to be getting on with! Your little man is so cute! His smile just melts my heart! Xx

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      • ashleykyleanderson

        No, thankfully we were a few hours south on Sanibel Island. We’re back where Kyle’s dad lives, but still about 2 hours away or so from Orlando. I can’t even believe the news… so tragic. Every time I see another snippet, it’s worse. I hate that this kind of tragedy is so commonplace now and I wish that something would be/could be done to prevent this sort of thing in the future.

        These weeks are tough ones! 2 weeks shouldn’t feel so long, but it does. Then later in the pregnancy you’ll get to the point where you have to wait like 6+ weeks and you’ll be wishing for those appointments every two weeks again! The next time you see baby s/he will have changed so much! There is a big leap between 8-10ish weeks and they go from looking like a blob to a little baby! Ross was so wiggly at the 10 week appointment that it was hard to imagine Elle couldn’t yet feel him moving. We even got to see all of the fingers on one of his hands when he moved his tiny arm, and he was just a couple inches long! It’s absolutely incredible and I can’t wait for you to experience it! Every week Kyle and I would look up what was happening with the baby at that development stage. I think it helped a tiny bit with the waiting, so maybe you could find an app to download if you haven’t already. I will be hoping these days go by super fast for you!! Can I just say how excited I am that we are having this convo? πŸ€—

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      • Nara

        I am just heartsick about it. For me Orlando is my happy place, and I am super super close with my gay sibling and it just makes me feel so sad that anyone could want to harm people who were only out having fun and expressing love for one another! Seriously I almost cried yesterday when I was telling T about it! I really hope that something can be done to stop these things happening. I know second amendment and all but we implemented gun control after a school shooting many years ago and people coped! Anyway… Here’s hoping.

        Thank you for explaining how it feels in the pregnancy. That makes me feel a lot better! It’s two weeks until the 10 week scan and then another two weeks for the 12 week – although I still need to book that but we are moving so I’ll book it at the new hospital. If the 10 week scan goes okay! Eek. I bet it is so strange seeing an actual little baby rather than a blob. Ross is sooooo cute I can’t imagine how cute he was wriggling around! I can’t believe you could see his fingers! I do have an app but I try not to check it too much… I usually look at it about once a week. I am happy we are having this conversation too! 😍

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  17. dubliner in deutschland

    oh I’m so glad everything is going so well for you at the moment! That’s so sweet about all your old colleagues coming by to say their goodbyes. Those cakes look fab. And glad your new job is off to a great start!
    I also believe that having a hard time at school can help you in later life and that for people who have things really easy in school find it even harder to cope when life is hard later on. Sounds like your friend is just having a hard time at the moment and is stressed, hopefully she’ll get on top of things again soon.

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    • Nara

      Thanks so much! One day I’m going to be able to comment on your blog… I have the WP app for my phone so maybe that’s why I can’t (argh) but you should know I read every post you write! I’ll just have to comment when you reply here! 😜
      I think the school thing definitely influences how we deal with stuff in later life. My friends who were super popular seem to take it harder, whereas we are used to how **** life is so we’re less fazed by it! I’m hoping my friend perks up. I did one of my famous “send something random in the post” so we shall see!

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  18. thegreatpuddingclubhunt

    Woah! So much going on!!

    Congrats on leaving your job (beautiful cakes btw!! As usual!))) and congrats on your new job! It sounds exciting!! I hope you really get everything you want out of it!

    Hooray for your scan!!!! I have everything crossed for you getting to your 12 week milestone!! I think you might be able to breathe a little bit of release at your 10week scan and get to see your little ones teeny feet!!!

    And a big congrats too on your house!!! At last!!! How are you and T coping with all this change all at once???!!!

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  19. miraclebabyo

    YUM YUM YUM!!! When you decided to move the US can you move near me! You are truly a professional, those cake looks absolutely amazing.
    Glad your farewell party was a success and that your ladies reunion was relaxing and fulfilling. You seem to have one lucky streak going with the great new job, new house, great man, preggers and great friends (time to buy a lotto ticket). Hope you are feeling well and that little bean of yours is wiggling around like crazy.

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  20. mum100blog

    Aaaaaah, so much going on Nara – but you’re handling it all so beautifully. Amazing to read your progress. Step by step, day by day, you can do this!!!! xxxs

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