Mothering

Everything changes in a year. This time last year we were on staycation prior to starting our second cycle of IVF, in the hopes of having our rainbow baby.  This year, our rainbow baby is here.  Here in the UK, it’s Mother’s Day at the weekend. It will be my first Mother’s Day as a…

Things I want to remember 

I’ve been a mother for almost seven weeks and I don’t know where the time has gone. I think I’m still in the phase where I can’t quite believe that it’s happened, but it has. Our lives have changed irrevocably and I’m still in a state of disbelief that finally it has happened for us. …

On being a fairy godmother

(Or: You’re not a mother, but you are magic.) Everyone knows that the supposed consolation of childlessness is to be the “cool aunt/uncle”. And if you’re trusted by the parents, you might even get to be a child’s godparent.  Things have changed over time. Back in the day, a godparent was supposed to be a…

Sometimes you just need your mum

I’ve written a bunch about my mad, bad family and I hope if I’ve got anything across it’s the idea that they are not exactly “normal” but I’m really rather fond of them. For example, I don’t believe in the Grateful Adoptee trope (for who are we apart from… y’know, individual humans?) but I do…